SOME OF MY FAVORITE EXCERPTS FROM "He's Just Not That Into You":::
If a (sane) guy really likes you, there ain't nothing that's going to get in his way. And if he's not sane, why would you want him?
We are all beautiful, smart, funny women, and we shouldn't be wasting our time figuring out why a guy isn't calling us.
If the guy you're dating doesn't seem to be completely into you, or you feel the need to start "figuring him out", please consider the glorious thought that he might just not be that into you. And then free yourself to go find the one that is.
When a guy is into you, he lets you know it. He calls, he shows up, he wants to meet your friends, he can't keep his eyes and hands off you, and when it's time to have sex, he's more than overjoyed to oblige.
You know you deserve to have a great relationship.
Don't waste the pretty!
Men don't forget how much they like you, so put down the phone.
He's just not that into you if he's not calling you. Men know how to use the phone.
Oh sure, they say they're busy.They say that they don't have even a moment in their insanely busy day to pick up the phone. It was just THAT CRAZY. Bullcrap. With the advent of cell phones and speed dialing it is almost impossible NOT to call you.
If I were into you, you would be the bright spot in my horribly busy day. Which would be a day that I would never be too busy to call you.
Here's something to think about: Calling when you say you're going to is the very first brick in the house you are building of love and trust. If he can't lay this one stupid brick down, you ain't never gonna have a house, baby. And it's cold outside.
Missing someone is a sign of a healthy relationship. Not respecting your need to have some form of communication with him while he's away is not. Regardless of his dislike for talking on the phone, he should respect and care for you enough to call you, if only because he knows it will make you happy.
Men are NEVER too busy to get what they want.
If he's choosing not to make a simple effort that would put you at ease and bring harmony to a recurring fight, then he doesn't respect your feelings and needs.
"Hanging out" is NOT dating.
THE IT'S BETTER THAN NOTHING EXCUSE:
Really? Is better than nothing what we're going for now? I was hoping for at least a lot better than nothing. Or perhaps even something. Have you lost your marbles? Why should you feel honored for getting scraps of his time? Just because he's busy doesn't make him more valuable. "Busy" does not mean "better".
I know. Every two weeks, once a month, seeing someone, having a little love and affection may help you get through the day or the week or the month- but will it get you through a lifetime?
I don't want to be "sort of dating" someone. I don't want to be "sort of hanging out" with someone. I don't want to spend a lot of my energy suppressing all my feelings so I appear uninvolved. I want to be involved. I want to be sleeping with someone I know I'll see again because they've already demonstrated to me that they're trustworthy and honorable- and INTO ME.
If you don't know where the relationship is going, it's okay to pull over and ask.
There is a guy out there that will tell everyone that he's your boyfriend. Quit goofing around and go find him.
I know it's nice to have a companionship and wake up with somebody that you really like, but that's what pets are for. Pets are God's way of saying, "Don't lower the bar because you're lonely."
We deserve more than a slumber party.
